A Gentle Reminder for Your Grieving Heart: It's Okay to Not Be Okay

If you’re here, your heart might feel heavy. Maybe the world feels a little muffled, like you’re watching it through a thick pane of glass. Or perhaps the pain is so sharp and fresh it takes your breath away.

However you feel in this moment—sad, angry, numb, or just… tired—we want to offer you a soft place to land. No lists, no advice, no "shoulds." Just a few quiet truths.

Your Grief is as Unique as Your Love

You might see people moving on, and wonder what’s wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Your grief isn't a problem to be solved; it's a testament to a love that is still very much alive. It’s the echo of a profound connection. There is no timeline, no map for this. Your journey is your own, and it is valid.

It’s Okay to Let the "Strong One" Take a Break

So many of us feel the pressure to hold it together, to be the "rock" for others. But even rocks are shaped and worn by the sea. It is more than okay to fall apart. It is okay to cancel plans, to cry in the car, to need a day where the biggest accomplishment is remembering to breathe. You do not have to be strong for anyone right now. Let someone hold space for you. If you can't find the words, just show someone this. They'll understand.

Look for the "And"

In the heavy fog of loss, we can often feel guilty for any moment that isn't pure sorrow. But the heart is a complex and miraculous thing. It is possible to be sad and to laugh at a memory. It is possible to feel lost and to find comfort in a warm cup of tea. It is possible to miss someone terribly and to feel a flicker of peace watching a sunset.

These moments of lightness are not a betrayal of your love. They are tiny, resilient threads of your own spirit, still woven into the fabric of life. Notice them. Allow them. You deserve them.

This Isn't a Goodbye, It's a Carrying Forward

The love you feel doesn't disappear. It has nowhere to go. It becomes a part of you—a new, deeply sensitive, and profoundly beautiful part of your story. You learn to carry it forward. Some days it will feel like a weight, and other days it will feel like a guiding light, reminding you of what truly matters.

So for today, just be. Be gentle. Be messy. Be still.

Your heart is doing the hard, sacred work of healing. It doesn't need to be fixed. It just needs to be felt. And you, dear reader, are not alone in feeling it.

Please be kind to yourself today.